a teenager got off after killing 4 people due to drunk driving by pleading “affluenza” (a made up psychological disorder that happens to rich kids who are taught money buys privilege).
but isn’t the very existence of the term ‘affluenza’ a part of the perpetuation of class…
Remember several weeks ago when blogger and writer Jincey Lumpkin called Miley Cyrus a feminist icon? Outspoken Black feminists took her to task for ignoring Miley’s exploitation of Black women. The backlash was so fierce that Jincey apologized.
Fast forward to November 13th, an ordinary day made extraordinary by the declaration of Lily Allen’s “Hard Out Here” as a feminist anthem and her video as a “genius” satire of pop videos. The video swerves into Miley’s lane featuring a relatively covered pop singer surrounded by scantily clad Black women. It features close-ups of Black women twerking, a long-standing hip hop dance for which has bizarrely been given credit Miley Cyrus. Lily Allen herself claims it’s satire but, given her iffy take on the black female body during a spat with Azlia Banks and the lyric “I don’t need to shake my ass for you because I have a brain,” timed right as one of her Black dancers bends over, it’s unclear what she’s satirizing, exactly. What is clear is that Jincey should have never apologized. Miley Cyrus IS a feminist icon and now, so is Lily Allen. They are feminist icons, and that feminism is White, cis, well-to-do and disingenuous.
Black women have been fighting for space in feminism since Sojourner asked anti-abolitionist suffragists “Ain’t I a woman?” There is a long, sad, and complicated history of white women being active participants in the (ongoing) colonization and exploitation of Black and brown women the world over. Funnily enough, Lily Allen sings in her slut-shaming “feminist” anthem “We’ve come a long way, and if you don’t see the sarcasm in that, you’re missing the point.”
We see this history come out to play when mainstream feminism shuns Black celebrities for the very things they laud their White peers for. So far, the list who gets the feminist badge looks very Caucasian and contradictory. Miley Cyrus is a feminist icon for getting naked. Lily Allen is a feminist for slut-shaming Miley Cyrus.
With this happening so frequently, it begs the question: what is the standard for mainstream feminism when it comes to claiming pop singers and celebrities?
It seems that any white celebrity who is both successful and female gets branded as some sort of feminist whether or not she has even called herself one. Looking at the low standard for who gets to be a feminist pop icon, I’m left wondering why Rihanna hasn’t gotten her badge yet. Rihanna has done more work in the field of feminism than any of the pop stars in her age group. She quite eloquently discussed rape and rape culture in her Man Down video. She chose to address domestic violence in her “We Found Love Video.” Most recently she centered the female gaze AND celebrated the athleticism of strippers in her Pour It Up video. Since the infamous domestic violence incident, Rihanna has made a commitment to live her life on her terms. It permeates her every choice, especially the ones we, the public, do not like. That alone is a powerful statement to other survivors of domestic violence, like myself.
All Miley had to do was sit on a wrecking ball, naked.
While almost every White pop star gets rewarded a feminist badge, the list of who mainstream feminism has declared “bad for the movement” looks quite uniform and Black. Beyonce suffers from internalized misogyny. Nicki Minaj is oversexed and suffers from internalized misogyny. Rihanna is a confused, oversexed victim…who suffers from internalized misogyny.
The fact is, Rihanna doesn’t get dubbed as a feminist icon for the very same reasons her white peers do: the black female body is deemed as overtly sexual. So much so Miley Cyrus can derive a sexual identity just by associating with Blackness and Lily Allen can make a critique of hyper sexuality on our backs. Rihanna being Black and female must work from proving she isn’t just a sex object. Miley gets to be naked and feminist because it is presumed that she is “innocent” and that enjoying sex—for White women like her—isn’t the norm, but a revolutionary act. This was the justification for the rape of Black women, the very reason Saartjie’s genitals were carved from her body, to prove our inherently sexual nature and to prove the White woman’s asexual (and therefore, pure) one.
When pop stars are declared to be shining examples of feminism while continuing a legacy of shaming and sexualizing black bodies, mainstream feminism is sending a clear message: we still ain’t women.
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moments from our Black Excellence group me chat. Got to hit me up to get added.
My problem with this is WHY would you ever let a guy treat you like that. On the FIRST fucking sign you’re a racial fetish you bite that dick off like a chocolate bar, just like he wanted it, & move the fuck on
Slow down there partner, I don’t date non-Black men so the “racial fetish” thing doesn’t really apply. These are Black men who think I’ll take it as a term of endearment, because most women do. Why would I “let” a man treat me like that? As if I can intercept a man’s thoughts before they make their way out of his mouth? I correct him or if it persists, I end it. No one is “letting” anyone do anything. And honestly it doesn’t bother me when ALL men do it. I’m complicated like that.
First, why would you not date anyone who isn’t your color? Secondly, that completely changes it. I don’t understand why a black man would do that, and I’ve never heard of any other couple of the same race talking to each other like that. That’s quite odd, really. Is that common for black men? I’m honestly curious.
And I just hate when anyone is seen as a racial fetish. I’ve been with a few black men and any time a black man that knows who I am sees me they feel the need to call me a snowbunny and laugh and mock me just cus they arn’t the ones that got my pussy. I’m not a whore; I was with these men. And any time I’m with a black male friend I get called it no matter where I go. And I see women constantly hit on by the color of their skin basically everywhere around here. I do live in the south Louisiana, though, which continues to be one of the most racist parts of the United States. But it’s so gross, and I don’t stand for it.
I have never dated outside my race because I am attracted to Black men. Apparently we have that in common. I would never fuck a man who sees me as a racial fetish so your reference to “biting his dick off like a chocolate bar”….um nah. It would never get that far. I clearly said I just “deaded” (ended things with) a man who called me chocolate. We never even kissed before. It got nowhere.
You don’t get it because you are not Black…in the Black community it’s quite common to refer to people’s complexion as “caramel” or “chocolate” in a positive way. Light-skinned girls call themselves “caramel” and women say they like “chocolate” men. It’s regular shit. Generally speaking, I do not like it, most people have no issue with it. Which is why a Black man would think it’s ok to say, until I establish that it is not. It in NO way compares to the use of “snow bunny”. Apples and oranges. That shit is used as a joke and y’all don’t realize it…
A joke? Naw they directly look at you as ‘a white girl who fucks black boys’ and that’s ALL you are to them. And if you don’t wanna fuck you are nothing to them, just some stupid hoe that threatens their ego. But that’s how it is with ANYONE who has a racial fetish. I would never trust anyone who does because I think it’s a sick mindset.
I’ve dated Spanish, white, black, & Indian men, 2 white women & 1 Italian woman. I am attracted to specific individuals of all races; not any race more-so than the other. I don’t know why you’re only attracted to black men, but on a psychological level, it sounds like a subconscious bias to the outside. If you only date people of your race, what level would you take it to? Why have friends of different races if you wouldn’t date them? Arn’t you excluding yourself from the possibility of love like that?
Yes..a joke. And your entire first paragraph reinforces that notion. I don’t know where the miscommunication is taking place. A man will call me his “chocolate queen” and intend for it to be the sweetest thing he’s ever said. I don’t believe that is EVER the case with “snow bunny”…as you just confirmed. The INTENT behind “chocolate” vs “snow bunny” is not at all the same.
"A psychological level"…? I have a degree in psychology. No need to get all Freud on me. It’s news to you that most people tend to date within their race? Although differences between people keep things interesting, commonalities tend to be what keeps a couple together…understandably people tend to have the most in common with others of their own kind (whether that’s race, religion, nationality, whatever). It is so much deeper than the way you’re portraying it. I don’t feel as if I’m missing out on anything. And I enjoy having friends of all races, ethnicities, religions, sexual orientations, etc. because I learn so much from their different perspectives. But in terms of building a future, raising children, etc? I cannot see that with anyone but a Black man and it would take so much more than a Tumblr post to explain why. Is your group of friends nothing more than a pool from which to select potential mates? I can have friends who are different from me because I don’t need to see in them what I’m looking for in a lifetime partner. I’ve had crushes on men of all races, and if I was the type to date casually with no intention of it being serious or long-term, then sure I could date anybody. But I enter relationships with purpose. And that purpose isn’t being fulfilled with a non-Black man.
man all this boils down to this: If she dont wanna be called chocolate and caramel or whatever it is, dont fucking call her that. you can call a woman your queen without saying chocolate. just call her your queen. Hell just call her by her name and whatever puppy names she likes. but dont call her fucking chocolate
So one day I decided to visit my friend who is black and goes to a pretty white dominated private college so we were chilling in his room and he wants to go see his other friends. As we walk into the room I notice it was mostly white people but I’m not worried though I’ve been around them my whole…
speaks to quite a few experiences i had at Saint Joes